In one episode, Tortorella invites hairstylist Kyle Krieger on to talk about their six-month relationship. “It was pretty much game on from the beginning,” Tortorella revealed on the podcast. (Though the two are no longer dating -- the actor was most recently living with girlfriend Olesya Rulin in Brooklyn -- they have remained friends.)
In another episode, he chats with friend Dan Donigan -- drag queen contestant Milk of RuPaul’s Drag Race fame -- about doing drag. And later in the series, Ryan Muirhead, a 35-year-old photographer, opens up about growing up Mormon and not knowing what masturbation was until he was 26. “He has this crippling fear of anything to do with sexuality,” Tortorella says. In another conversation with Younger co-star Molly Bernard, the actor talks about his first time hooking up with a boy in high school.
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“The first time is always so nerve-wracking because of the weight that comes with it,” Tortorella says. “I looked at him and said, ‘I don’t define myself by my sexuality and neither should you. This is just a byproduct of love.’ Even then, at that point, I was saying the same things that I’m saying now.”
“I’m a human being that loves love before anything else,” he continues.
Whether he’s labeled bisexual, demisexual or sexually fluid, Tortorella does consider himself a member of the LGBTQ community. “One hundred percent,” he says, adding that he feels attached to it in the same way he feels attached to the straight community, the Hollywood community or even the hockey community. “I think labels have been set up for people to find homes.”
But he’s quick to say he’s not trying to change the world. Tortorella doesn’t want a label-less society. “I’m trying to be the thing somebody is looking for,” he says.