If you want to get with Adam Lambert
, leave your drama at the door!
The 33-year-old superstar opens up about relationship deal-breakers and that jaw-dropping gym selfie in his latest ET interview, getting candid about romance in his 30s and how he relates to his "Ghost Town"
lyric -- "and now I know my heart is a ghost town."
"There are moments where I wonder to myself, 'Am I gonna fall in love again? Or ever? To the way that I feel like I want to?'" he says, adding that his song could also be posing a question. "Is my heart a ghost town? I don't know. But that's kind of the beauty of the song... it is a bit meloncholy and a bit spooky in the beginning, but then that beat kicks in and it's so euphoric and it makes you wanna dance. So maybe that's the medicine."
Adding: "If anybody's ever felt that way, a little hopeless a little, 'Oh, I'm not feeling what I want to feel' and 'Am I empty inside? Is this it?' Start dancing and that kinda answers the question for you."
Let's not forget: dancing is also great cardio! Another thing Lambert is clearly familiar with
, judging by this recent shot.
Lambert stays in shape thanks to the help of a personal trainer, regular Pilates and frequent hikes (L.A.'s Runyon Canyon four times a week, frequent!).
"I just physically feel better when I'm working out more," he explains. "I like being in my body a little bit more, it feels good... and all this pop music business, they're taking pictures all the time," he adds with a laugh. "I don't want to look like a fat slob, you know?"
But when it comes to romance, he's taking a more relaxed approach. Asked what he's looking for in a relationship, Lambert's response is quick. "I don't know what the hell I'm looking for, to be honest with you," he says, "and I think that's the beauty of getting into your 30s and kind of being like, I'm OK with not knowing. I'm not sure. Maybe when I find it, I'll know it, I guess?"
"This album is a lot about that," he explains. "It's about longing and it's about questioning things and wondering. Also acceptance -- that's another big part of it, is kind of saying, 'OK, so I'm single.' 'OK, so I'm alone tonight.' 'OK, so it's not gonna feel the same way every time.' That's OK."
When it comes to relationship no-gos, Lambert definitely knows what he doesn't need.
"Drama! I don't want any drama!" he exclaims. "None. I want it to be harmonious and smooth sailing, and I think at this point being in this industry and being a performer and having a busy schedule and having a lot of other priorities, ultimately I feel like I'm gonna need somebody who can hang with all that. I don't know where the heck they are -- that's a lot to ask of somebody."
In the meantime, Lambert is happy to have fun, make friends, and focus on his career.
"When the right person comes along, the right person will come along."
Tune in to ET tonight for a first-look at the "Ghost Town" video,
while the full-length video will be available exclusively on ETonline.
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