Kate Hudson has yet to say "I do" to her fiance of nearly two years Matthew Bellamy, and is now sharing the challenges she faces when in romantic relationships.
"Relationships are the most challenging things," the 35-year-old actress tells SELF magazine
. "It's where you do the most work in your life. You come face-to-face with yourself, and if you can deal with realizing we're all flawed, accept it and work with it, you might have a really amazing, lasting relationship."
Kate says she looks to her mother Goldie Hawn and her longtime partner Kurt Russell for relationship tips. "If I look at my parents, who've been together 30-something years, I'd say no matter what they've been through, they share similar values and really like each other. It sounds easy, but it's not."
Another piece of advice from Goldie, "My mom once said something so poignant to me: 'Honor your female friendships, because men can come and go, but when we nurture our relationships with women, they can be forever.' I really believe that. My girlfriends are so important to me. They've been my rock-solid foundation."
The mother-of-two adds, "I think happiness is a practice. But not the sort you find in self-help books, where you smile and have a vision board. You're fooling yourself to think that's how you're going to find it. I love the idea of a gratitude journal, but there are times when mine turns into a venting journal. Not so grateful, just a big ol' vent!"
Given Kate's recent quotes on relationships, do you see her marrying her 35-year-old rocker beau sooner rather than later?