Shailene Woodley Has a Very Unique Way of Loving People

by Antoinette Bueno 5:00 PM PDT, March 12, 2015
Playing Shailene Woodley Has a Very Unique Way of Loving People

Shailene Woodley has never been shy about her unique philosophies.

The 23-year-old Insurgent actress -- who's been open about everything from sunbathing her private parts to eating clay -- is similarly candid in her new interview with ELLE, in which she talks about her preferred way to love another person.

Listen how the magazine recounts Woodley's description of her "all-loving" ways.

"I never want to love like this" -- Woodley holds her arms outstretched, as if to envelop you --"I always want to love like this." She thrusts her arms behind her back, pressing her chest forward. "Heart centered, like, 'This is who I am! And I love you if you love me for who this person is. And if not, I'll still love you, but I ain't fallin' in love with you!'"

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Photo: Elle Magazine

She also has a metaphor for her significant other, though she remains tight-lipped about his identity -- Shailene just "smiles" when asked if she's currently in love.

"When you're truly in love, for me, it''re my lighthouse!" she says. "You're somebody who holds me high, keeps me safe, you've got my f**kin' back.... You also love me whole, wild, and free. You let me do me, and I'm gonna let you do you! And I'll be the home that you return to."

The Fault in Our Stars actress attributes her strong personality to her family.

"I was born into a family of warriors, really strong people," she explains. "It doesn't mean that it was an easy childhood and we didn't have our s**t, because every family does behind closed doors. But even though my parents are divorced, they get along. I have a family who every day strives to do the right thing."

She's particularly influenced by her grandmother, whom she describes as "the most banging 69-year-old I've ever met in my life."

"She's so fit," she gushes. "She's so rad!"

Photo: Elle Magazine

She shares one piece of advice her "Grams" has given her that has stuck with her to this day.

"One day I was having one of my teenage crises, when you think everything's falling apart -- your estrogen and progesterone are freaking out," she recalls. "And she said, 'Shai, the most important thing in life is self-love. You've gotta take care of yourself. You've got to take care of yourself, and you gotta live from your deep heart.'"

"For some reason, her saying the words deep heart just always stuck with me," she adds. " ... What I've come to determine in my life is that my deep heart is my -- it's my compassion, empathy, and intuition."

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