7 Times Ben Affleck & Jennifer Garner Got Too Soul-Crushingly Real About Their Marriage

by Alex Ungerman 4:54 PM PDT, June 30, 2015
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Weeeellllll, so much for our #RelationshipGoals...

It's a decade and done for Ben Affleck and Jennifer Garner. One day after their 10th wedding anniversary, ET has confirmed the couple is divorcing.

Their split, which has been rumored for some time, does bring to mind some moments during the "Ben Jen Ten" (We're calling it that. That's what it's called now.) where the couple got a little too real about their marriage.

These are those seven moments.

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1. When Ben said that marriage is work.

"I want to thank you for working on our marriage for 10 Christmases," he said at the Oscars in February 2013. "It's good, it is work, but it's the best kind of work, and there’s no one I'd rather work with."

He's not wrong. It's just that "work" is not a word you'd expect to hear about a significant other during an Oscars acceptance speech, let alone MULTIPLE TIMES.

The couple later joked about the speech on SNL, and the rest is history.

Their relationship, that is.

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2. When Jennifer put Ben on blast for forgetting to mention her in interviews.

"Ben asks me, 'How come when I do an interview I manage to keep you out of it completely?'" Jennifer told W Magazine in early 2010. "And I’m like, 'Either because you don’t think about me or because boy magazines don't care about what I make you for dinner. But they should!'"

Oof. The shade is real.

3. Let's not forget Jen basically gave away Ben's penis on The Ellen DeGeneres Show.

It was cute, and in jest, but that's basically what happened.

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4. When Ben compared his plight in his household to that of a feudal laborer.

"I just know what it's like to be a serf that just does things," Affleck told Ellen in 2010. "When one of the vassals comes and points at something... I take orders from people that cannot speak. And yet still they are higher up on the food chain than I am. I have three women in the house… I get to be wrong three times a day."

5. This quote from Jen in the Independent in 2008.

"Sometimes I think, 'Oh gosh, I'd better read the paper so I can talk to my husband! I can hold my own with him, though. I hate to break it to him, but he likes to think, 'Can you believe how smart I am?' He'll be teasing me and I'll say, 'Yes, actually, I can. I'm astounded that you can keep up with me most of the time.,'" she said at the time. "I'll promise you one thing: he is not boring. You can't get him to go out somewhere, but at least you can have a good conversation with him. Just as long as you're willing not to leave the couch."

See, this seemed really cute before, but given what has happened that quote now takes on a much shadier tune.

6. How Ben always asked Jen to work.

"My husband is always the one saying to me, ‘You have to work, you have to work. This is part of who you are. We’ll figure it out,'" she told Elle last year. "That's powerful, when your partner has that serious mantra."

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7. Today, when they broke our hearts forever.

To be fair, it's very easy to read into moments of a couples past after they divorce but... you know what this mattered to us.

We're still processing.

Jennifer, Ben, we will miss your love. Thanks for the "Ben Jen Ten." (Still a thing. Still happening.)

Get details on the couple's sudden split below.