Kate Hudson no longer has ill feelings towards her biological father, Bill Hudson.
Even though he "abandoned" her and her brother, Oliver Hudson
, when the two were children, the Rock the Kasbah
actress was candid about how she's learned to show him "forgiveness" on Jenny McCarthy's Dirty Sexy Funny
talk show on Sirius XM on Thursday.
"I think [Oliver and I] both probably suffered differently and very similarly to anybody who feels abandoned by a parent," Kate, 36, explained.
Bill married Kate and Oliver's mother, Goldie Hawn, in 1976, but the two called it quits in 1982. The pair were raised by Goldie and her longtime boyfriend, actor Kurt Russell. Kate says that although the situation has been difficult
on her and her brother, they're now able to laugh about it.
"We can have a sense of humor about it together," she continued. "We can sort of laugh at the challenges that we faced because of it -- together. To be honest, our dad, who we don't really know very well, is really funny ...from what I remember when we were younger [he] had a great sense of humor. When we laugh about our father, we go, 'We probably got that from him.'"
"Life is funny. I just feel so lucky. I actually feel like it was a blessing," she shared. "No matter what he goes through, I'm all forgiveness."
Kate said she's come to that realization after spending "a lot of time being sometimes maybe too strong."
"I work very hard to be self-sufficient, and I want to do it on my own," she added. "But sometimes that puts up a defense mechanism. I spent a lot of time in my life softening. I think a lot of women feel that way."
On Tuesday, ET caught up with Kate at the signing of her new book, Pretty Happy: Healthy Ways to Love Your Body
, in New York City, where she revealed the best love and relationship advice her mom has given her over the years.