Married at First Sight
star Jamie Otis has opened up about suffering a miscarriage
in an emotional blog post titled "Losing Our Baby
Otis and her husband, Doug Hehner, revealed the miscarriage on Wednesday, just a week after announcing they were expecting their first child
together. The sudden loss has been understandably hard for the couple. "My heart is so heavy," Otis, 30, writes. "There are no words to express the pain and sorrow associated with losing our baby Hehner."
Otis shares in the post that she and Hehner, 35, were planning to throw a "gender reveal party" at the end of July.
"I was on Facebook making the 'event' when we walked into a high risk doctors office," she explains. "I had been bleeding or a few weeks prior, but every time we checked the baby (which is usually twice a week) the little one was kicking, moving, and the heartbeat was going strong."
The couple saw four doctors before they lost the baby, but Otis says she and Hehner remained "optimistic" about the outcome before being given the sad news. “Like I said, I was literally on Facebook planning our gender reveal party…Until the doctor flat out said ‘The prognosis is very poor and there is nothing you can do to help it. You have very little amniotic fluid for the baby,'" Otis adds.
Being a nurse, Otis says she knows "how important amniotic fluid is for growth and development." Still, she and Hehner were in a state of disbelief after seeing the doctor.
"How could the prognosis be so 'poor' when I had just seen our baby's feet kicking and his little body bouncing around in my belly less than a week before," she continues. "Needles to say, we didn't want to believe in that prognosis even though everyone raved about how amazing this doctor is. (And there's no doubt in my mind he is an amazing doctor, but we were just in such denial!) We decided I would go on bed rest, drink lots of coconut water and even more regular spring water and fight our baby."
In the end, writing about the miscarriage (and getting feedback) has been therapeutic for the Wifey 101 author. "Talkin about my baby who I fell in love with the minute I knew his little heart was beating inside me is therapy," she notes. "I wish I could hold him and love on him. His little feet and hands were so precious. He was beyond adorable, even at 17 weeks."
She closed the post by asking fans to pray for her family. "Pray for our little baby Hehner. I know he is up in heaven and I am sure he is bouncing on clouds, but selfishly I wish he was still bouncing in my belly. I'll never get to see this Angel again on earth. He was given to us so graciously by God, and then God took him away too early. My heart hurts so bad. Losing our baby has been the most terrible experience. I wish no one would have to endure this."
With more than 15 to 20 percent of pregnancies ending in miscarriage in the U.S., Otis and Hehner certainly share a grief felt by many families. Real Housewives of New York star Bethenny Frankel recently spoke to ET about suffering a miscarriage alone.