When it comes to relationships, Elizabeth Gilbert doesn't mind pressing the reset button. The Eat, Pray, Love author, recently split from her husband, Jose Nunes, after falling in love with her best friend, author-musician-hairstylist Rayya Elias, and now, she's addressing the rumors that she's having a "midlife crisis."
"I've just left another marriage, and it's starting to look irresponsible," Gilbert joked to fans during a Facebook Live chat on Tuesday. "People are saying I’m having a midlife crisis and [asking], 'What is she doing?' All I'm doing is telling the truth, again and again and again, in a way that says, 'This isn't working for me.'"
Gilbert, 47, explained that by abiding by the mantra "curiosity over fear," it means she often shakes up the norm.
"The biggest magic I've ever experience in my life is when I have stepped out against culture," she explained. "What I mean by that is any moment of my life is where I have rejected the model that was set forth about what a woman’s life is supposed to look like."
Regardless of what people may think, Gilbert intends to keep following her heart. "Every time I've done that, the result has been big magic," she said.
Gilbert announced her split from Nunes in June and revealed her love for Elias, whom she's been friends with for 15 years, three months later. Their relationship went from best friends to partners after Elias was diagnosed with cancer.
"Something happened to my heart and mind in the days and weeks following Rayya's diagnosis," Gilbert shared on Facebook in early September. "Death -- or the prospect of death -- has a way of clearing away everything that is not real, and in that space of stark and utter realness, I was faced with this truth: I do not merely love Rayya -- I am in love with Rayya.”
Gilbert's first marriage to Michael Cooper ended in 2002. Nunes was the inspiration for the "love" in Eat, Pray, Love.