The comedian took to Instagram on Monday to say that she had been physically and verbally abused and raped by an ex-boyfriend, whom she did not name.
"There are many reasons not to make an abusive relationship public, mostly fear. Scared of what people will think, scared it makes me look weak or unprofessional," she wrote next to a photo showing bruises on her arms and legs. "When I broke up with my ex this summer, it wasn't because I didn't love him, it was because of this. And I absolutely relapsed and contacted him with things I shouldn't have, but there are no 'best practices' with this."
"It's embarrassing. I feel stupid. After being verbally, physically abused and raped, I dated him for two more months. It's not simple," she added.
Stelling went on to explain that for months she abided by her ex's wishes to not speak directly of him on stage, as both of them live in Los Angeles. Not only would people figure out who she was talking about in her act, she also didn't want to "start a war, press charges, be interrogated or harassed by him or his friends and family."
"I don't want revenge or to hurt him now, but it's unhealthy to keep this inside because my stand-up is pulled directly from my life," she explained. "It's how I make my living. My personal is my professional. That is how I've always been; I make dark, funny."
Importantly, the Ohio native noted that even though she was publicly bringing such a difficult subject to light, she doesn't want this to be her only story. "Already since talking about this onstage, many women have come to me after shows asking me to keep doing it. Men have shown their solidarity," she said.
A few hours after her original post, Stelling shared a photo of herself with comedian Sam Morril, explaining that she wasn't bashing all men. "And just to be clear, there are wonderful men in this world," she wrote on Instagram. "@sammorril was a friend to me getting out of my last relationship, he listened, made me laugh, comforted me."
Stelling kicked her career off in Chicago before moving to L.A. in 2011. She released her second comedy album, Simply the Beth, in October, and has been featured on Conan, Jimmy Kimmel Liveand Comedy Central.