Ben Higgins Reveals He's Returned Home to Indiana After Having a Breakdown
By Mona Khalifeh
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Ben Higgins is opening up about his recent struggles with mental health. In a new episode of the Better Etc. with Trista Sutter podcast, Higgins revealed that he's back in his native Indiana after suffering a breakdown, where he hopes to "figure out what my life is going to look like."
"I am back in Indiana right now because of a breakdown, again, in my life where I don’t know what’s happening. I don’t know what this next season of life looks like for me. I’m farther and farther removed from the show, and at the same time, I need to figure out what my life is going to look like and what my legacy is going to be," Higgins told Sutter.
It hasn't been easy for the former Bachelor star, who admits he's been at a "low place" lately.
"It’s also really hard. I’m at a low place, I don’t see myself as this thriving figure right now. I’m kind of lamenting and separating myself from a lot of things that I held close," he added.
Despite a wedding to look forward to, Higgins admitted that he's "not good at experiencing joy right now" and "not good at celebrating things" as well, which he said is likely due to his ego "playing tricks" on him.
He went on to say that being on the reality TV show started to become his identity, but it wasn't long before he realized he began to lose himself in his quest to stay relevant.
"I [started] building an identity around that," he admitted. "I started to really feel like, ‘Oh, my gosh, this is the thing that I was needing to fill me, this is the thing that will change the rest of my life, I'll be in the in-group forever now.'"
He continued, "I started to try to reach to stay relevant… and the more I did that the more I lost myself… the more I was living, not just for other people, but just for other people's attention, not even to have a connection with them."
While he's stepped away from the small screen, Higgins has very much remained in the Bachelor Nation world as a co-host on theAlmost Famous podcast with fellow Bachelor star, Ashley Iaconetti, for years.
"I remember doing it and walking out and I just remember this feeling of like, 'Who are you? What is this about? Why are you still doing this? You're taking something from somebody that needs it and someone that you love,'" Higgins recalled on the Facebook Live series, Addiction Talk Live. "That was, I think, the start of me starting to say, 'I need to start at least confronting it.'"
Though Higgins wanted to get help after that moment, he said that it wasn't until "months after, a year maybe, that I said, 'I'm done.'"
"I think it was finally just looking at myself in the mirror after 24 hours in my bed and saying, 'Hey, this isn't the man you want to be'... I don't know why I was ready in that moment. I can't tell you there was a lot leading up to it, I don't know why it happened then," he said. "... At that moment is when I officially decided I needed to get help. That's when I started telling my friends, I started telling my family... That's when it started to become a thing that I knew I needed to rid myself of, or at least try to heal from."