Katy Perry Reveals What She's Learned from Therapy
By Antoinette Bueno
Katy Perry covers Harper's Bazaar's October 2014 issue, in which the 29-year-old pop star gets candid about what she's learned from past relationships with famous exes Russell Brand and John Mayer.
Katy reveals she started doing therapy after her divorce from Brand in 2012, and breakup with Mayer earlier this year.
"What I've learned is that if you don’t have the foundation of self-love first, you really have nowhere to pull love from to give it away," she says. "I had to learn about taking care of myself before I could take care of others. I want to mommy everyone. I want to take care of them. I want to save them, and I forget myself in the meantime. I learned that through therapy."
Katy -- who's currently single -- describes herself as "open" to the possibilities of dating, but now that she is about to his 30 this month, has "less time for bulls*it."
"I look for the same characteristics: a sense of humor -- someone who makes me laugh off the charts -- someone who is sensitive, someone who loves and understands music, and who is really smart," she says. "A lot of times I've ended up with people who have been intimidated by me, unfortunately. They say they're not, but it comes out in the long run. They're threatened, or there's resentment because they don't know how to handle it."
And she clearly has a type -- men with "large vocabularies."
"I've always been very attracted to gentlemen who have quite large vocabularies," she reveals. "One of my favorite apps is the Dictionary.com app. In my late 20s, I've educated myself more than I did growing up because I wasn't able to have a great education. I was taken out of school, put in these weird, janky, kind-of-not-really schools."
But Katy is in no rush to settle down and have children -- though she feels that message has been misinterpreted in interviews.
"When I do these interviews, a lot of these clips people pull out are like, 'Katy Perry doesn't want a man to have babies. I'm like, 'I didn't say that. I just said, I'm good.' Why am I a baby machine? Why can't I be a mogul?" she asks. "I want to have a baby, sure, but I want to have a career. I want to have a record label. I want to have an incredible tour. So I'm going to have all of those things. Let's talk about that. It's like, get out of my ovaries, okay? I’ll do it in time."
Harper's Bazaar's October 2014 issue hits newsstands September 23.