Kate Winslet on Keeping Details of Her Failed Marriages Private: 'I'm Proud of Those Silences'
By Desiree Murphy
When it comes to relationships, Kate Winslet has been through a lot, and it hasn't been easy for the movie star.
The Academy award-winning actress, who turns 40 on Oct. 5, is opening up about her failed marriages and how she kept the divorces private in a candid interview with WSJ. Magazine. Winslet graces the magazine's October issue, which hits newsstands on Oct. 10.
In the tell-all interview, Winslet reveals that, over the years, tabloids tried and failed so many times in attempting to explain how and why her earlier marriages to indie filmmaker Jim Threapleton and director Sam Mendes unraveled.
"No one really knows what has happened in my life. No one really knows why my first marriage didn't last; no one knows why my second didn't. And I'm proud of those silences," she shared with the magazine.
The actress, who stars in the new film, Steve Jobs, hitting theaters next month, says that although the process has been difficult, she doesn't feel alone.
"I know lots of people who are not in the public eye who have gone through several marriages, I really do, and it's just those are the cards that life dealt me," she continued. "I didn’t plan on it being that way. And f— me, it hasn't been easy, you know."
Winslet met first husband Threapleton on the set of the independent film, Hideous Kinky, and the two were married in 1998 when she was 23 years old. They had a daughter, Mia, in 2000, and were divorced by 2001. Shortly after, the Titantic actress met Mendes. They tied the knot in a private ceremony in the West Indies in 2003, the same year their son, Joe, was born. They were together for seven years until finally splitting in 2010.
"No one teaches you, and also no one particularly helps you," Winslet explained about what it was like to get so much attention from the press following her divorces. "It's a very specific thing to ask people to understand. 'So-and-so was mean about me in the newspaper.' 'Oh, just ignore it.' But you can't, because it's not true."
Despite Winslet’s failed marriages, she was able to open her heart and find happiness again with her third husband, Ned Rocknroll (born Edward Abel Smith). The two crossed paths by chance while they were both vacationing on Necker Island, a private resort owned by RocknRoll's uncle. They married in 2012 and have one child together, Bear, who turns two in December.
"Thank God for Ned -- really," she said. "He's just so incredibly supportive, and he's so much fun. He's absolutely everything to me. And to all of us."
Winslet also opened up about life at home with Rocknroll, stating that she doesn't feel like her life is as glamorous as others may perceive it.
"I've always been so uncomfortable with that," she said about referring to herself as a movie star. "I just don’t feel like one, and I don't live like one either -- not the way I imagine a proper movie star living."
So how does she live, exactly? Since becoming a mother, the actress says that staying fit is something that has become more important to her than ever. She wakes up at 6 a.m. to cook breakfast and get her kids ready for school.
"We all focus on our bodies in our late teens and our early 20s, in a way that is just not cool or healthy," she said. "In your 30s, you become aware of staying fit. Now I view my physical self as an instrument that I have to keep going because I'm a mother, and I have to be as healthy as I can for those three people who need me -- more than I need for myself to be in a f—ing nude scene."
This isn't the first time Winslet has discussed her views on body image. Watch the video below to hear her talk about body shaming when ET caught up with her in March while she was promoting Insurgent.