During an appearance on the Motherly podcast last March, Scorsone discussed how her views on parenting changed after her daughter, Paloma, was diagnosed with Down syndrome.
"How do I mother this child?" she recalled asking herself after the diagnosis. "If my job is not to equip her to compete and dominate socially, or educationally, or physically or economically, if I am not supposed to help her do that, what is a mother? What is my job?"
"This simple voice came to me where I was like, 'I don’t know what to do… Oh, I'm supposed to keep her safe and I'm supposed to make her feel loved,'" she added. "And suddenly my understanding of my job as a mother completely distilled and opened."
That understanding, she said, allowed her to approach love and acceptance in a new way.
"I loved Eliza so much because she was so clever, and she was so beautiful and she was so funny… but all those things were external qualities," she explained. "It forced me to realize that I was loving my other daughter and everyone, including myself, for absolutely the wrong reason. I was loving people for their external qualities and not for their essence."