'Bachelorette' Tayshia Cries Over Fan Favorite's Emotionless Exit After Hometowns -- But He's Still In Love

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Hometowns are here! And by here, we mean at La Quinta. 

Tuesday's episode of The Bachelorette saw Tayshia Adams get to know her final four better by forcing them to try to simulate their hometowns on set at La Quinta Resort & Club in Palm Springs, California, because the coronavirus is still a thing. 

Ben, Ivan, Zac and Brendan did their best to give Tayshia a better idea of what life with them would be like and introduce her to their families as her journey to find love continues -- and as Chris Harrison teased, it got quite emotional. 

"These are moms and dads and friends that aren't used to stepping onto our stage and so it was a very vulnerable, almost uncomfortable feeling because they were walking into the lights, the cameras and our moment," he told ET last week. "It's a very different hometowns than you've ever seen before."

"These guys are in deep and it says a lot about her," the host added. "It's only going to get more difficult, more emotional as we go on." 

The men did go deep with their feelings -- but Ben didn't go deep enough. Though he realized (thanks to Top Chef star Antonia Lofaso) that he was in love with Tayshia, he didn't tell her. Furthermore, he didn't express any emotion when Tayshia sent him hope -- causing her to break down into tears. 

ET was live blogging along the way. Scroll down for a play-by-play of everything that went down ahead of next week's big finale! 


7:00 PM:

PROMO TIME! And we get a sneak peek at fantasy suites -- and how awkward the guys feel knowing she's spending the night with another man. 

Then, a bomb that explodes everything, an apparent argument with Zac, Tayshia's father laying down the law, and Tayshia bursting into tears. 

Next Monday and Tuesday... we are READY!


6:56 PM:

"I'm not asking for this grand gesture, but the fact he couldn't give me one ounce of emotion was extremely disappointing," Tayshia tells the camera. 

She wanted to see ANYTHING from Ben -- even anger -- to show her their time together meant something. 

"I don't even know what to do," Ben says in the car. "I'm still in love with her. I really thought we were going to be together. I wanted to marry her. She was going to be my wife, the mother of my children." 

Tayshia starts crying, recalling how much time and energy she put into pulling things out of Ben, and says she can't do that every time. "My heart is starting to hurt. It's just a lot." 

Ben still doesn't know what to do. "I should have told her how I felt when I had the chance," he says. "I'm not sure how I'm supposed to fall out of love with her. Maybe she loved me and thought I didn't love her back. And if that's the case, I f**king blew it." 


Say Something!!!

6:53 PM:

Tayshia tells Ben how much she cares about him and how sorry she is. 

She's not sure if their stories are aligned at this time, and Ben doesn't know what to say. Is he in shock? He is literally not saying anything. "I would have liked it to go another way, but it is what it is. I'll be alright. I'm always alright," he tells her. 

"Ben, don't shut down on me," Tayshia begs him. 

"The last two weeks showed me a lot about the things I was feeling for you," Ben squeaks out -- but can't say much else. "I've been wrong before." 

"I'm heartbroken, but I'll be alright," he adds. 

With that, he gets up and walks to the car. SAY SOMETHING, BEN!!

Take a Seat

6:52 PM:

Ben looks SHOOK as Chris comes in, telling him to take a moment and say his goodbyes. 

Tayshia asks if she can walk Ben out, because he's seemingly content to just leave it there at the rose ceremony. 

They take a seat at a bench outside. 

Lesson Learned

6:50 PM:

The first rose goes to Ivan. Then Zac. Then Brendan. 

And no rose for Ben, because he jinxed himself by telling everyone BUT Tayshia he was in love with her. 

Lesson learned, we hope. 

Beautiful Dress!!!!!!!

6:49 PM:

Even Chris has to comment on Tayshia's "beautiful dress" because it's that good. 

He asks her if she knows how the guys feel about her, and she says she tries to guess... this does not sound good for Ben. 

She walks in and tells the guys what great of a time she had with their families -- and how it raised the stakes. "Thank you for this week, it means a lot," she says. 

Good Luck to You

6:46 PM:

It's time for the rose ceremony and Tayshia looks AMAZING. Is this her best look yet? Yes. Yes it is. 

The men arrive one at a time. Brendan is wearing a turtle neck, and Chris wishes him good luck. 

Next is Ivan, and he is smiling wide and very confident. 

Then Zac, who heads in real quick, worried his energy is "too much." 

Finally, Ben arrives -- and tells Chris he's in love with Tayshia. "Does she know that?" Chris asks, of course already knowing the answer. "Good luck to you." 

Should Have Told Her

6:40 PM:

Ben decides he need to tell Tayshia how he feels -- but he doesn't actually end up doing it. 

"I got weirdly emotional," he tells Tayshia during their debrief. "I feel so good about the way this is... it's so easy. Yeah... I don't know." 

"My brain couldn't work," he later admits to the camera. 

He and Tayshia kiss goodnight, and she walks away. 

"In true Ben fashion, I just blew it. I'm in love with her, and I should have told her," he says. 

I Love You

6:38 PM:

Antonia from Top Chef makes Ben list all the things he loves about Tayshia -- and then convinces him he's in love with Tayshia. 

"I love all of this so much," she says. "As soon as I saw you guys sit down together, it was lights out." 

"Have you felt this way about any other woman before?" Antonia questions Ben. "You love her." 

"I don't know," Ben says. 

"You love her. It's not even a question," Antonia agrees. 

Ben admits it's true -- and Antonia tells him to just tell Tayshia already. "I love you. See how easy that is?" 

Another Wall

6:36 PM:

"Ben has been someone I have had my eye on, but him being so closed off has made me hesitant," Tayshia tells Ben's sister. 

She confirms that Ben has a past and he's more guarded. "I will say -- he's not hiding anything. It's just, the wall hasn't broken down yet," Madeline shares. "He really is very sensitive." 

"At the end of the day, he wants to be vulnerable with that special person," she assures Tayshia. 

Top Chef!

6:34 PM:

Tayshia gushes over how happy she is with Ben -- but she's still looking insight into who he really is. 

It took Ben a while to open up about his past, so she wants to hear more from his family. 

Antonia from Top Chef -- yes, that's where you know her from -- is SO CUTE and we love her. 

Madeline also seems so sweet and this is definitely a different vibe from the other dates. 

Pleasant Surprise

6:29 PM:

Ben and Tayshia end the day part of their date at the "beach" -- aka the pool, and he tells her about who she'll meet today. 

His close family friend, Antonia, will be here, plus his sister, Madeline, who he credits with saving his life. Ben's dad is a doctor, so with COVID, his parents weren't able to make it. 

"My parents haven't seen me happy in a long time," he says. He says he's never been happier in his whole life. "Tayshia is the most pleasant surprise I've ever gotten in my whole life." 


6:26 PM:

Ben has a "huge crush" on Tayshia, and says she feels like his girlfriend. 

First stop on their rollerblading extravaganza is the juice bar. The wellness shot was "aggressive," but better things are ahead -- like a impromptu "shop on the boardwalk." 

Then, he unveils his and Tayshia's caricature drawing, and we're impressed. This took a lot of coordination. 

Ben's Date

6:25 PM:

The next day, it's time for Ben's date -- final stretch, people! 

Ben was born and raised in Indiana, but he feels most at home in Venice Beach, so he's created that at La Quinta. 

They'll be rollerblading down the beach, and it looks like so much FUN!

Falling In Love

6:20 PM:

Tayshia's "not shocked" by how well it went with Ivan's family. "That's a family I want to be a part of," she tells the camera. 

Outside, she praises Ivan for his loyalty and how much love he has for his brother. 

"Just know I'm the happiest person in the world right now, you have no clue," Ivan tells Tayshia. "This has been a great day, and I really appreciate every moment." 

"Seeing Tayshia with my family, with my brother, I felt like I saw a glimpse of the future," he tells the camera. "Quite frankly, I really am falling in love with Tayshia."

Icing on the Cake

6:17 PM:

Tayshia sits down for some one-on-one time with Gabe, and tells him about how much she's heard about him. 

Gabe jokes she's heard all the "bad" stuff, but Tayshia assures him it's all good -- about how much she's made a difference. He then gets emotional talking about how Ivan has stepped up when he needed him. 

"It seems like you guys together... I like it," Gabe tells Tayshia. 

"To have that conversation with him... Gabe was definitely the icing on the cake, and was exactly what I needed," Tayshia tells the camera. 

Glow Together

6:17 PM:

Ivan's brother says he's happy to finally be here for Ivan for a chance, instead of the other way around. 

"I could just tell, your whole energy," Gabe says. "Reading her energy... she seems like... y'all together is organic. Y'all glow together." 

"Tayshia's awesome, dude," Ivan agrees. 

Ride the Wave

6:14 PM:

"It's very special for me to have my brother here," Ivan says as Gabe takes a seat. 

"Ivan has lit up so much talking about you," Tayshia assures Gabe, who apologizes for his shocking entrance. 

"We're family," Ivan's mom assures him, as he notes how his family has had to "ride the wave" with his past. 


6:11 PM:

All of the sudden, Ivan's brother walks through the door, and he doesn't even notice. Tayshia has to physically move his head to show him, and it's too cute. Everyone is tearful as the brothers hug it out and now SO ARE WE. 

Open Arms

6:09 PM:

Ivan tries to assure his mom that if he does end up engaged at the end of this, it's because he's thought it through. 

He's confident he'll move forward and meet Tayshia's family, and his mom says if it works out, she'll welcome Tayshia with open arms. 

What a Wise Dad

6:07 PM:

Ivan's dad is wise as can be. He asks Tayshia about her divorce, and she shares that it was her ex's decision, she fought for it, but she's since learned from it. 

Ivan's dad also "got married young," and appreciates how Tayshia has learned from that experience. 

"She's... I'm really impressed with the young lady," Ivan's dad says. "She and Ivan could be a good match... I don't want to get ahead of myself." 

Walls Up

6:04 PM:

Tayshia meets Ivan's parents, and they couldn't be cuter. 

"I just wish my brother was able to make it," Ivan says. "He's the person who has most influenced me in the world." 

Right away, Ivan's mom takes Tayshia off to chat. "I'm still a big skeptic. It's just so fast," she says. 

Tayshia agrees that it's been a "wild ride," but that she knows it can work. She opens up about how much she likes Ivan, and how mature he is. 

"He's as genuine as it comes," his mom raves. "It's his happiness that I'm looking for." 

Tayshia notes to the camera that there are "walls up," but she understands. 

Good Impression

6:00 PM:

Ivan tells Tayshia he wished his brother and niece could be here, but the fact that his parents are here (especially given his father's health issues) means a lot. 

"I really hope I make a good impression," Tayshia says. 


5:59 PM:

Tayshia gushes over her and Ivan's "realistic" dates and it looks like they're making lumpia and we are so jealous. Have you head lumpia? Highly recommend. 

"Ivan is definitely a guy that makes me feel very loved when I'm with him," she tells the camera. "It was the perfect combination of light hearted and fun. He hit the nail on the head with today's date." 

Top Filipino Chef

5:56 PM:

Tayshia meets Ivan for his hometown date, and they head inside his "humble abode" -- aka another suite at La Quinta. 

Ivan explains that Filipino cooking is a huge deal in his family, and he's friends with one of the top Filipino chefs in the world -- his niece, Kehlani. 

She was born when his brother was in prison, and Ivan really stepped up to help raise her. He is smiling so wide watching videos of Kehlani cooking -- and now it's time for Tayshia to get to the kitchen!

Cutest Little Button

5:50 PM:

Tayshia calls Zac's mom the "cutest little button" and she really is. His dad doesn't want to see them go, and we don't either. We love this hometown! 

Zac and Tayshia debrief outside. "Today was amazing," Tayshia says. "It feels so easy and natural with you." 

"It feels right, it feels good. I have zero hesitations about it," she tells the camera. 

She and Zac say goodbye, and Tayshia feels good about it. 

Let's Cheers!

5:47 PM:

Zac tells his mom that despite his hesitations, he actually does want a wife and family -- and he's come to that realization with Tayshia. 

Then he gets emotional, thanking his mom for her strength and support. She wipes away tears. 

"We're lucky to have him today where he is, and I hope Tayshia sees that," Zac's mom tells the camera. 

Zac's mom is sincere while talking to Tayshia about how much she's changed him. "That made me so happy," she says of Zac realizing he wants a family. 

"Let's cheers!" she says, raising a glass. 

Forever Flourish

5:46 PM:

Zac's dad is adorable and we love him. He tells Tayshia he's a little uncomfortable with the situation given his background, but he sees his son happy. 

"I don't think there's any question in my mind that he's smitten with Tayshia," he tells the camera. "We are so blessed to be here." 

He has hopes their relationship will "forever flourish," and Zac's mom seems just as optimistic. 


5:44 PM:

Almost immediately, Zac's brother Matthew takes Tayshia off to talk. He's rooting for a "fairytale ending," but he's skeptical. 

"Give me all the dirt," he jokes. "Here's what I'm curious about... where are you at with Zac in comparison to where you're at with the other three." 

"I'm definitely falling in love with Zac, and I could see myself marrying him at the end of this," Tayshia says. 

Matthew confronts Tayshia for not answering his question -- and asks if Zac has asked her the question himself. She says he hasn't, because it doesn't feel good to talk about other people's relationships. 

Did that convo go well? Unclear. 

The Clarks

5:43 PM:

Zac assures Tayshia she'll do "great" meeting his family, and then walks her inside. His mom, dad and brother immediately get up to greet them. 

"There's things in life you can't put a value on. They saved my life," Zac notes of how his family supported him through his addiction. "I think Tayshia will fit in with the Clarks." 


5:36 PM:

Tayshia and Zac end their New York date in his version of Central Park, and talk about how much his family means to him. They got him through some of his darkest times, and he can't wait for her to meet them. 

Then, they head to the fountain where they made that first wish together, and get in. "Tayshia's the best. She's the best. When I'm with her, it's like there's nothing else going on in the world," Zac says. "She lights me up, and tonight's going to be amazing." 

'I Would Be Happy'

5:34 PM:

Tayshia meets Zac for his "hometown" date in New York City, which is again, still at La Quinta. 

He teachers her how to hail a taxi, and it's pretty cute. Zac mentions how Tayshia said she would consider moving to New York, so he wants to give her a taste of what that would be like. 

They take their "taxi" to the bagel shop. "I don't know if I can trust a girl who eats blueberry on her cream cheese bagel," Zac teases. 

They have New York pizza and Tayshia loves it. "It would be insane if I was with Zac in New York, just because I would be happy, I think," she tells the camera. 

1 Down, 3 to Go!

5:27 PM:

"I truly feel like Brendan could be my husband," Tayshia gushes after saying goodbye to his family. 

Now only three more hometowns to go! 

Ready to Get Married Again

5:26 PM:

Brendan sweetly tells his brother that if he could mold a Bachelorette, it would be Tayshia. Then, he breaks down over how "real" the experience is getting. 

Tayshia seems to be getting along well with Brendan's family -- and his brother tells Tayshia he really believes Brendan is ready to get married again. 

"It felt really good to hear Brendan's brother having a feeling Brendan and I would be a great match, because they know him better than anyone," Tayshia tells the camera. "That made me feel so good." 


5:23 PM:

Tayshia and Brendan tell his family about his "inconclusive" lie detector test, and they seem to take it well. 

Then, Brendan's brother heads off to talk one-on-one, while his sister-in-law chats with Tayshia. 

"I feel like that's where Brendan and I really bond over our divorce," Tayshia confesses. 

His sister-in-law tells Tayshia she doesn't want him to close off his heart, and his brother notes their obvious physical connection. 


5:19 PM:

It is NIGHT and Tayshia's ready to meet Brendan's brother and sister-in-law. 

"Sometimes I can't read what he's feeling inside," Tayshia tells the camera, hoping that meeting his family is take them to the next level. 

Brendan says the day was amazing, and Tayshia raves over seeing a different side of him. "I'm really nervous but I'm excited," she gushes. 


5:15 PM:

Brendan shows off his secret handshake with his niece, and it turns into a "swaggy" dance party and we can't unsee those moves. He is wiggling about and it is funny and adorable and very embarrassing. WE LOVE IT. 

They end the day part of the date the best way they could -- with a bounce house!

Brendan Wants to Be a Dad

5:11 PM:

Brendan has set up a little fair for Tayshia to simulate what his hometown is like -- and then his niece comes out. 

Tayshia hugs Brendan's niece before she has a chance to hug him, and we think it's hilarious, but she seems to enjoy it. 

Tayshia loves spending time with Brendan's niece and seeing how loving he is with her. 

"I want to be a dad more than anything," he tells the camera. "I love how sweet Tayshia is being... Tayshia's just showing that she obviously cares about others and would be a great aunt a great mother, I'm assuming, too." 

Long Time Coming

5:10 PM:

Brendan's date is here and Tayshia is so excited. She hopes it's the step Brendan needs to feel comfortable to progress their relationship. "It's been a long time coming, and I think we need it," she tells the camera. Yes, it has! 

Brendan hasn't gotten a one-on-one since Tayshia's very first date. Let's get on with it! 

Hope, Love, Friendship, Tears

5:05 PM:

Chris tells the men which of their family members have arrived at the resort -- and he's a big fan of Ivan's mom. 

Ben says he doesn't know how to "do the emotion" of crying (that's not great for this show, Ben!) and Brendan is going first -- with his brother, sister-in-law and niece at the resort to greet him. 

Brendan breaks down in tears about how much his brother means to him. (See, Ben! Tears! The show LOVES this!) "This is so, so special to me," Brendan raves. 

Chris leaves and the men all hug each other. Friendship!

The Families ARE HERE

5:01 PM:

We see Tayshia enjoying her morning, thinking about the week ahead. 

Now, it's time for the guys to do the same. Chris Harrison arrives at the villa to give the men the lowdown on what's happening: hometowns have been moved to La Quinta! 

"I want you to put together a date that will take Tayshia to your hometown... a little window at what life would be like with you," he says. 

Plus -- their families are already here and quarantining!


5:00 PM:

Hometowns are here! And according to this dramatic promo, they're going to be PRETTY intense. 


The Bachelorette airs Tuesday at 8 p.m. ET/PT on ABC.

The finale will air over two nights next week, on Mondays and Tuesday at 8 p.m. ET/PT on ABC. ET's Lauren Zima will be recapping everything that goes down, directly after each episode. Watch ET Live on your Roku, Apple TV or Amazon Fire TV or you can stream on Pluto TV and Samsung TV Plus.


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