'The Bachelorette': Ben and Riley Make Personal Reveals & Tayshia Gets Ambushed Ahead of Hometowns

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Hometowns are coming up onThe Bachelorette -- so it's time for Tayshia Adams to make some tough decisions. 

This week's episode of the ABC dating show picked up where we left off, with Noah and Bennett's surprise two-on-one before the cocktail party. Our Bachelorette knows this show's not big enough for the two of them, so one of them has to go. Spoiler alert (but not if you watched the episode) -- it was Bennett... but he ended up returning post-elimination to tell Tayshia he's in love with her. 

Pre-Bennett ambush, Tayshia tried to focus on diving deeper with the remaining suitors. Ben made a heartbreaking, personal reveal about past suicide attempts, and Tayshia got to know the other men better through a lie detector test. Zac admitted to cheating (on his 6th grade girlfriend), and Riley broke down over his family drama. After last week's emotional reveals, we thought we had reached peak drama on The Bachelorette, but we were wrong. 

ET was live blogging this week's episode. Scroll down for minute-by-minute updates.

Double Trouble Next Week

7:00 PM:


Plus -- it's a "Men Tell All like you've never seen before," Chris Harrison teases. Oh, how we've missed you! 

Tayshia faces the men, plus Yosef, who she never met. We are confused, but this is not about us! 

Two nights of The Bachelorette -- wahoo! 

Show Up For Me

6:57 PM:

Tayshia wants someone to show up for her like Dale showed up for Clare. She didn't exactly say that, but who else still has PTSD from how many times Clare said that?

"Bennett showed up at my doorstep today, and I've always said I wanted a guy to show for me like that," she tells the camera after he leaves her suite. "Bennett said I love you. It's been a long time since I've heard the words I love you and it mean absolutely everything, and I know Bennett wasn't saying things just to say them. I'm so confused." 

"The way that I sent him home the other night did not feel right, but also at the same time, I'm here now with other people," Tayshia says, referring to contestants Ivan, Noah, Brendan, Zac, Blake, Ben and Riley. "If I ask Bennett to come back, I don't know how the guys would react. This is very hard. I am so confused." 

Nice Try

6:57 PM:

"Listen, this is a lot, I know. And I'm not expecting any answers or immediate epiphany," Bennett assures Tayshia. "I was just wanting to see you again and share this with you, because I'm dead serious about you. I haven't had emotions like this ever, over a girl." 

"I personally have so much going on right now in my head, and I don't really know how to process this," Tayshia responds. "I appreciate this a lot, but I feel like I just need the night. Tomorrow, I'll let you know." 

Bennett tells Tayshia that's "perfectly fine," and then tries TO GO IN FOR A KISS. 

"Nice try," Tayshia says, giving him her cheek instead. 

Bennett Is In Love and Tayshia Is Very Confused

6:55 PM:

Bennett tells Tayshia that he couldn't leave without expressing to her exactly how he feels.

"You have every ounce of my heart, right here. I don't use that word lightly," he says. "And I'm not expecting anything from you, but if there's an ounce of you still that would like to explore our relationship and continue on a journey, I would love nothing more than to stay for you, and I'll do absolutely anything in the whole world."

Tayshia still struggles to process what is happening -- but admits she didn't think she was going to send him home. "I don't really know what's happening right now," she confesses. "I'm very confused."

Bennett Tells Tayshia ... Why Is He Here

6:54 PM:

"So, it's been a little bit of a whirlwind, to say the least, and I spent all day going over and over in my head our parting," Bennett says. "I first want to tell you I'm so sorry. I'm so, so, so sorry for making you think I questioned your integrity or decision-making ability. It was the least of my intentions. I never would, I swear to you." 

"Our goodbye was so bizarre, so surreal, I couldn't even fathom what just happened. I was thinking about all these things that I wasn't able to share with you, sometimes you don't realize things until they're gone. And I realized in that moment that I love you," Bennett continues as Tayshia, clearly shocked, struggles to find the words to respond. 

"I'm not going to lie, I'm speechless right now," she admits. 

Tayshia looks shocked. 

This Is Strange

6:52 PM:

Tayshia is SHOOK by Bennett, and why does this scene look so creepy? 

He is talking in a very low voice and tells Tayshia how great it is to see her. This is very strange. We are caught off guard. 

"What a dress," Bennett says as Tayshia leads him into her suite to talk. 

Say What?

6:48 PM:

Tayshia heads back to her suite to process the date... and is confronted by BENNETT. 

YES, THE BENNETT WHO WAS SENT HOME. Why is this happening? Why is he waiting there in the dark? 

No Rose

6:48 PM:

Every guy has opened up to Tayshia tonight, so she's having a hard time deciding who to give the rose to. 

"I feel like I had a very impactful, meaningful conversation with every single one of you," Tayshia says. "I don't want to just give out a rose to give out a rose." 

Tayshia's going to keep the rose ... for now. She'll give it out at the rose ceremony. "I just want it to come from the best place." 

This rose means a lot... it's an invitation to meet their family. "Every single guy has put their heart on the line, but meeting family is a really big deal to me," she explains to the camera. 

We Love You, Riley

6:45 PM:

Tayshia tells Riley she feels "extremely honored and grateful" that he opened up to her. 

He says he's not sure he deserves the praise he's getting, but he's grateful. WE LOVE YOU, RILEY. 

"It feels really good to share that with Tayshia, even though I was nervous. She was able to bring it out of me, and let me know I am a good man," he says. 

Riley Explains

6:44 PM:

Riley explains to Tayshia that he was initially named Dwayne, after his father. 

They had a great relationship, but when he got older, they had a falling out. He figured things out with his mother. "He took something from her that didn't belong to him," Riley explains. 

"My mother, she deserved so much. We missed so much time," he continues. "We went quite a while without really having a relationships and I resented her... based on what he was saying to me." 

Riley says he got to a point where he couldn't look at himself in the mirror... and he had to start over. "I got a legal name change," he shares, adding that his mother was there with him in the court room. 

It's emotional, and Riley says it's something he doesn't normally talk about it. 


6:41 PM:

Riley is in full-blown meltdown mode, crying in the dark before working up the courage to talk to Tayshia. 

"My family's situation is difficult," he tells the camera. "But if she's going to meet my family, I have to be able to tell her this kind of stuff." 

Tayshia finds him, and asks if he's OK. They sit down. 

You OK, Boo?

6:35 PM:

Riley, meanwhile, is getting anxious. 

"Family visits are next week. How can I possibly bring my family in here if she has no idea, anything at all, about what me and my family have been through?" he asks the camera. 

He breaks down in tears. What is he going to reveal? You OK, boo? 

About Brendan...

6:33 PM:

Tayshia loves that the lie detector test revealed some areas to dig deeper in. 

She loves how secure Ivan made her feel, she's feeling alright about Noah, and then she sits down with Brendan. 

"The lie detector was inconclusive about you meeting my family and me meeting yours," she says. 

Brendan says he's excited for Tayshia to meet his family, but he's nervous about proposing again. "I want it to be the last time I ever do that," he shares. 

"I don't want to introduce people to my parents, because they went through my divorce with me," Tayshia agrees. 

She likes that Brendan has a similar background, and Brendan tries to assure her his feelings are real. 

Zac's Cheating Reveal

6:32 PM:

Tayshia reminds Zac that her marriage ended because of cheating. "I will not date a cheater," she says. 

Zac then tells Tayshia about his cheating past. It was his first girlfriend. He met another girl, and "french kissed" another girl at a bowling alley. "It was my first girlfriend in 6th grade, and that's my cheating story," he says. 

Tayshia freaks out. "Oh my gosh! Are you joking? Are you downplaying anything?" Tayshia asks, relieved Zac's story wasn't more serious. 

Zac then tells Tayshia that he "hated" revealing he was falling in love with Tayshia during the lie detector test. He wanted it to be private. 

Tayshia tells Zac she feels the same way. They kiss. 


6:29 PM:

It's time for the night part of the date. Riley is nervous, and Tayshia is wearing a very fancy dress for a night of sitting by the pool. 

"It was interesting to get to see the truth detector... it did spark some questions," Tayshia says. "Cheers to a night of getting to know each other a little better." 

Tayshia sets her sights on Zac, determined to ask about his cheating. 

Riley... If That Is Your Real Name

6:24 PM:

Riley is apparently a liar for saying his name. 

"The lie detector test was very telling, but some of these answers are not what I expected," Tayshia tells the camera. 


Anyway, the date is over now. Before commercial break, we see a little promo of what to come. Tayshia will confront Zac about being a cheater, and Riley gets real about his real name. 

This is Fake

6:22 PM:

Ivan admits to being "aroused in front of Tayshia," and Noah gets caught in a lie? half truth? of noone faking an orgasm with him. 

What are these questions? Who is the producer setting off these light bulbs? 

Our suspicions that this is all fake are confirmed when Brendan answers a question with a "I hope so." This is supposed to be yes/no! Does noone know the rules? 

Tayshia is not concerned with such questions. She wants to know about whether Brendan is ready to propose. 

Zac admits to cheating, and then AGAIN doesn't give a yes/no question when he answers whether he's in love with Tayshia. 

"It might have already happened," he says. 

Tayshia Is First

6:20 PM:

Tayshia is up first -- and she reveals that she's falling in love with multiple people... and gets called out on her lie of not regretting sending anyone home. 

Tayshia thinks her husband is in the group, so time to get down to the men!

JoJo, Polygraph Expert

6:19 PM:

The producers have decided to put the men to the test with what must be a very fake lie detector test. 

"We are going to be testing you all today," Tayshia excitedly reveals. JoJo, who we are sure is not a polygraph expert, will be running the show. Red lightbulb means lie, green means truth, and orange is not sure. 

Noah Is Sitting on His Legs

6:16 PM:

The next day, Noah is sitting on top of both his legs on the couch as the guys talk about Tayshia possibly meeting their families. We don't know why, but this is sticking with us. Is he very flexible? Have we ever seen a man sit like that? Is this the Bambi pose all the influencers do? Unsure. 

We don't have too long to think about it, because the men are OFF TO MEET TAYSHIA. 

Important Notes

6:11 PM:

Back at the villa, Blake, who we have not heard from in 15 years, says he can see a future with Tayshia. He ends up getting the one-on-one, and Zac is jealous, even though he JUST got a date last week. 

Zac is freaking out, so he must be in love. 

But before commercial break, the show displays a very important title card. 

If you or someone you know needs help, please call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).


6:08 PM:

Ben and Tayshia end the night with a private concert. 

"Today's date has just been perfect, and now we have this stunning private concert," Tayshia tells the camera. "The way Ben made me feel tonight is the way I want to feel with my future husband... I truly love Ben." 


A Rose for Ben

6:06 PM:

Ben says he didn't want to worry his sister, and that he never found the right time to tell her about how much she helped him. 

"Through being very intentional and aggressive with my therapy, the person that you see before you today, isn't that person," he tells Tayshia. "It's insane that I just told you that, because I don't tell you that I was very scared about sharing all of those things, and I'm OK." 

"You're OK," Tayshia assures him. "And I'm still right here. I see you and I hear you, and that's all I've been wanting. I've been wanting you to open up to me... you're an amazing person." 

"I don't want to cry, but thank you," Ben replies. "It literally means the world to me." 

Tayshia then offers Ben the rose -- she'll be meeting his family. "I'm so incredibly happy that you're here. I'm so happy you were able to take the steps so we're able to progress our relationship," she says. 

Ben's Big Reveal

6:04 PM:

Ben makes a big, emotional reveal: he attempted suicide twice in the past.

"2018 was a rough year for me. I left a career that I thought I was going to be in forever. The Army didn't end up working out for me, for a number of reasons, but I ended up breaking my back pretty bad, and I'm 26 years old, and I can barely walk up the steps, and I was living in a city that was too expensive for me, and I was completely lost," Ben shares. "My life was very dark, and I didn't know how to say that I needed things. I don't know if you can relate with that, or how that can be. The only person I confided in was my sister, and I'm trying to give you the whole picture." 

After taking a contemplative pause, Ben commits to going "deep." 

"I had two failed suicide attempts in 2018 and 2019," he says. "I don't mean to, like, throw that on you. It's a weird thing to do here. My sister, she doesn't know, and I guess she'll know now." 

"But I didn't want to be here anymore, and for the same reason that I don't like to share, it's because I didn't want to burden anybody with my problems," Ben continues. "And I thought that the easiest way was to just not be around. Luckily, it didn't work. And the only thing that got me through that was her, and she has no idea. She saved my life, and so I owe her everything." 

Being Perfect

6:03 PM:

"I was raised in a house where being perfect was expected, or being a certain way was expected. You have to look the part, you have to do all the things a certain way. I had everything I needed, materially, but I think often I was left wanting emotionally," Ben tells Tayshia, as she encouraged him to let his walls down. 

Ben continues, revealing that he left home when he was 18 and joined the Army. "I've just been conditioned to be this person that even when I'm feeling vulnerable, I default to what's comfortable. It's easier for me to do this than to say the wrong thing or be overtly vulnerable or share a thing that's really uncomfortable for me," he explains. 

Tayshia asks Ben if he's close with his family, to which he brings up his sister, who previously helped him with his 15-year battle with an eating disorder. "She's the best person I know, and she's saved my life in more ways than one," Ben says. 

"How did she help you?" Tayshia asks. 

The REAL Ben

6:01 PM:

Tayshia and Ben sit down for a romantic dinner date. "I'd love to meet Ben's family and see what makes him tick and where his roots are," she tells the camera, but notes she has concerns about him not opening up to her. 

He tells Tayshia he can't believe this is real life, and it's the kind of nice thing Tayshia was scared of hearing. She wants to know the REAL him. 

"I feel like you're almost too perfect. You say the right thing... I feel like you want to display this perfect image of yourself," she tells Ben. "I know you're holding back... I feel like there's hurt there." 


5:56 PM:

Ben puts his pants back on as they wrap up the day part of the date, and he and Tayshia talk about how their relationship has progressed. 

"You have to just... let it out," she tells Ben, encouraging him to open up.

"It's me trying to be perfect," Ben says. "Maybe part of me doesn't want to share things because I don't want to burden you. But I trust you." 

Ben is gearing up for a big reveal. "I want to know more," Tayshia tells the camera. "With Ben at this moment, I don't know if I can give him a rose, because I've yet to see who he really is."

Onto the night part of the date! 

Ben Is Not Shy

5:55 PM:

All of the sudden Ben is taking off his pants (he keeps his undies on) to get into a fountain. Tayshia is happy, but we are having flashbacks to last week's episode, when he stripped it all off. 

This man is not shy, is he? 


5:54 PM:

We have to leave Zac behind for a min, because it's time for Tayshia's date with Ben. 

Producers have run out of activities at the resort, so Tayshia and Ben will be riding scooters. 

Ben says he's "incredibly grateful" to be riding scooters. We're kidding, he's talking about getting a one-on-one. "I'm excited to keep the momentum going," he tells the camera. We think THAT is about the scooters. 


Zac Is Crying

5:52 PM:

Ben gets the first one-on-one this week... but Zac is crying? 

He says his family is "everything." "My mom and my dad are my heroes, so that makes it really real," he cries in front of the guys. "

He is MEGA emotional about Tayshia possibly meeting his parents. "Knowing how happy I've been the last couple of weeks with Tayshia..." he tells the camera, before choking up. "It's a lot to take in." 

Check In With Yo'self

5:51 PM:

We're down to just seven guys, and while the guys can't believe it, we can. We are one week away from hometowns, people!! 

JoJo walks in the next morning, and Chris Harrison is still out. "I can't tell you guys enough how important meeting the family is," JoJo tells the guys, instructing them to "check in with your feelings." 

She drops off the date card and bounces. 

Still In

5:45 PM:

Tayshia makes her picks... and it DOESN'T include her first impression rose winner, Spencer. He's out! 

(And Young Noah is still in...)

Thank You Noah for Being a Nurse

5:38 PM:

Time for the rose ceremony! 

Ivan is having trouble with his eyesight and can't tell how many roses are left. It is 5! Let's get some carrots worked into his diet. 

Noah is not that confident, and we're not going to lie, we wouldn't mind seeing him go home. However, we will say that as a nurse, Noah has been doing a lot to help us throughout coronavirus, so we are happy with him in that regard. Happy with Noah in the real world, not so happy with Noah in the Bachelorette bubble. 

Tayshia gives the men a heartfelt "thank you" before picking up her first rose. 


5:33 PM:

Tayshia and Brendan sit down to talk, and we are reminded of how much we miss him. 

"I feel like me and Tayshia have a real connection," he says. "I'm going into tonight's rose ceremony feeling really, really good." 

More Brendan please!! But it'll have to wait because now the cocktail party is OVER. Our lovely guest host JoJo calls Tayshia for the rose ceremony. Guess Chris Harrison is still dropping his kid off at college? 

Live ur life, Harrison! 


5:32 PM:

Tayshia connects with the other men at the cocktail party, while Noah sits and sulks. GOOD. 

"Once I started diving into talking to the guys, my night was turned around," Tayshia gushes. "This is such a good group of guys. I'm really excited about the direction we're going."

Tic Tacs

5:22 PM:

Tayshia admits it "didn't feel right" sending Bennett home, and then we get a shot of Noah inhaling Tic Tacs. 

"No, don't be smiling," Tayshia scolds him. "That wasn't a victory for you, by any means.... that was hard." 

Tayshia is SO GOOD at being serious, and tells Noah she's not going to give him this rose either. But, she'll keep him around for the rose ceremony and make her mind up later. 

Noah is pissed. "Honestly, I'm not sure what she's thinking," he tells the camera. 

Deja Vu

5:19 PM:

Young Noah is smiling from ear to ear as Bennett asks Tayshia if this is really goodbye? Remember when Eazy said that last week? Deja vu, people! 

"I'm shocked," Bennett admits. "Never for one second was I questioning your ability to make a decision... I'm so sorry." 

"I'm sorry, Bennett," Tayshia replies, walking him to his car. 

Bennett looks SO SAD. Like, sadder than Ben usually looks. Then he gets in his car and tells Tayshia he hopes she finds what she's looking for. 

Remember when we loved Bennett and now we're not that upset to see him go? What a difference a week makes. 

Not Bennett

5:17 PM:

Tayshia is back from her thoughtful walk outside, and she's ready to hand out her rose. 

She praises Bennett for how she makes her feel, but then says she's worried about how condescending he is to other people, and how he questioned her intentions. 

Then she addresses Noah, sharing how excited she is to get to know him. "I'm also worried you're not ready for marriage at the end of this," she says. 

So, who gets the rose? Not Bennett. 

"Bennett, unfortunately I can't give you this rose," Tayshia says, and Bennett looks SHOOK. 

EQ or IQ or DQ

5:15 PM:

We're back from commercial and Noah and Bennett are still fighting about EQ and IQ, and we can't tell if we're over this because our IQ is too high or our EQ is too low. 

Bennett says he knows he's "different" and he owns it. "Let the best man win," he quips. 

"He's acted like a young child through this process," Bennett tells the camera of Noah. 

Noah feels confident. "I think Bennett's going home," he shares. 

Very, Very Sorry

5:10 PM:

We're back with the impromptu two-on-one, and Tayshia is not having it. 

She confronts Bennett for "questioning" her integrity -- even though he doesn't feel that way. 

"For that, I'm very, very sorry," he says, before shifting the conversation to Noah.

Beginning of the End

5:00 PM:

Welcome one, welcome all! It's the beginning of the end and we're ready it. 

Hometowns are coming right up, so it's time to get serious. 

The Bachelorette airs Tuesdays at 8 p.m. ET/PT on ABC. Next week, The Bachelorette will air Monday and Tuesday at 8 p.m. ET/PT on ABC. 


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