Nina Dobrev on Friendship With Ex Ian Somerhalder and His Wife Nikki Reed: 'What's Bad About That?'

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Despite their history together, there's no awkwardness between Nina Dobrev, her ex-boyfriend, Ian Somerhalder, and his wife, Nikki Reed.

Dobrev appeared on Watch What Happens Live With Andy Cohen on Wednesday, when during the after-show, she was asked by a caller if she thought it was weird that she was still friends with her ex as well as his wife. While starring on The Vampire Diaries together, Dobrev and Somerhalder dated for more than three years before calling it quits in 2013. Dobrev and Reed were actually friends -- and still are -- before Somerhalder started dating and eventually marrying Reed in 2015. 

Reed gave birth to their first child together, daughter Bodhi, in July 2017.

"I don't think that's weird at all," Dobrev said of her friendship with the couple. "I think that's great. I think, 'Why can't everyone be friends?' I think that they have a beautiful baby, and they are happy and so am I, and what's bad about that? I don't see any problem with that."

In September 2014, Somerhalder passionately defended Reed after some fans didn't take too kindly to the fact that Reed was good friends with Dobrev before the Twilight star started dating Somerhalder. 

"You HATE NIKKI REED? Really? Do you know her? Hmmmm, I'm not sure that you do," Somerhalder wrote in a lengthy Instagram comment. "Look on her Instagram feed or twitter and all you will see is a compassionate and beautiful human being. Please put your negative energy elsewhere. You don't even know the person you're talking about."

"Do you care about me?" he continued. "Ask yourself that question. What's the answer? Is it yes? If it is -- then please be happy for me. ... Do your research of the person you say sucks or you HATE. You'll find that she's a magical person doing great things in the world. If you hate Nikki than you must hate me ... That's sad."

In February 2017, Reed put the rumors to rest about any feud between the three.

"For the last few years we thought addressing any baseless rumors with silence was the best way," she wrote on Instagram alongside a picture of them all together. "Besides, who wants to respond to made up stories about 'friends backstabbing friends,' 'cheating exes,' or 'cast members exiting shows' on low-brow websites ... that are just perpetuating trends that preceded us."

"Yuck. I now see that silence was taken as an opportunity to fill in the blanks with even more falsities, and juicer stories, and we, yes WE, believe we have a moral responsibility to young girls to end that narrative, because at the end of all of this, those young girls are the ones who lose," she continued. " ... So here's to putting an end to all those fake stories of on set jealousy, betrayal, made-up-friendships lost & women hating women. Because at the end of the day, that's what this is about: teaching girls that you have to hate other girls only breeds a generation of women who believe you have to hate other women."

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For the last few years we thought addressing any baseless rumors with silence was the best way. Besides, who wants to respond to made up stories about "friends backstabbing friends", "cheating exes", or "cast members exiting shows" on low-brow websites like hollywoodlife that are just perpetuating trends that preceded us. Yuck. I now see that silence was taken as an opportunity to fill in the blanks with even more falsities, and juicer stories, and we, yes WE, believe we have a moral responsibility to young girls to end that narrative, because at the end of all of this, those young girls are the ones who lose. Their passion and endless devotion for a tv show is being taken advantage of, replaced with feelings of anger through divisive techniques, & even worse, their minds are being shaped & molded as their view of themselves, other girls, & what those dynamics should look like are being formed. So here's to putting an end to all those fake stories of on set jealousy, betrayal, made-up-friendships lost & women hating women. Because at the end of the day, that's what this is about: teaching girls that you have to hate other girls only breeds a generation of women who believe you have to hate other women. And that's what these magazines, websites and blogs don't understand. That is the harmful unintended consequence of their bullshit stories and we have a moral responsibility to fix that. Let's turn this page together, as we all walk into the next chapter peacefully. And finally, let's use this as an example of how important it is to stop this trend of writing horrible headlines about women, painting us as bitter, angry, insecure, heartbroken, childless, feuding, backstabbing monsters because whether we want to admit it or not, it changes the way all women view themselves. And shame on these websites for now targeting an even younger demographic, instilling this at an earlier age when girls are even more susceptible, more vulnerable and more malleable. When we write these headlines we teach hate. I've seen it firsthand. Let's shift what we put into the universe starting now, & hopefully we will start to see a shift in the way we treat each other & view ourselves❤

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Meanwhile, Dobrev shared her own photo with the couple. "Can't believe how time flies," she wrote. "Farewell dinner with team Somereed! So good catching up with these goofballs. All ❤."

ET recently went behind the scenes with Dobrev for her new CBS sitcom, Fam. Watch the video below for more:

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