The couple recently announced they're expecting their third child together.
Hilary Duff and Matthew Koma's love story is a decade in the making! The couple met in 2013, tied the knot six years later and are currently expecting their third child together.
The romance started after Duff's marriage to Mike Comrie came to an end. The former couple wed in 2010, welcomed a son, Luca, in 2012, and ended things for good in 2016.
In between, Duff was introduced to Koma in a professional setting, and the pair later developed a romance. Keep reading for a full relationship timeline of the actress and the singer.
2013: The Duo Meets
In a December 2019 interview with Vogue, Duff recalled meeting Koma while she was working on her 2015 album, Breathe In. Breathe Out.
"Matthew and I [actually] met about six years ago," Duff said, before remarking on their first two-hour lunch together. "There wasn't an instant spark, because I think when you're walking into a professional meeting, you know nothing about the other person."
"And then when we started talking about music, things started sparking and he was being funny enough, not flirtatious, but funny enough to where we started creating a banter and a nice friendship right off the bat," she added.
January 2017: Their Red Carpet Debut
The couple dated on-and-off in the years that followed, but didn't make their red carpet debut until Entertainment Weekly's SAG Awards party in 2017. Shortly thereafter, Koma made things Instagram official by sharing Polaroid pictures from his recent "date night" with Duff.
March 2017: They Break Up
Just a few months later, ET confirmed that Duff and Koma had called it quits. Meanwhile, a source told E! News that the split was triggered by their busy schedules.
September 2017: Reunited
The pair reunited around the time of Duff's 30th birthday. The Younger actress shared a pic with Koma in a slideshow from her "most favorite birthday ever," and later hinted that her beau had given her a guitar for her birthday.
They were spotted out on sushi date shortly thereafter.
December 2017: Duff Gives a Relationship Update
"It's going so great. I mean, this is the third time that we've dated... Timing is such a big deal… Third time's a charm!" Duff said during an appearance on The Talk. "I think that you have history and a past with someone and love, and just because it doesn't work out the first time, the second time, as long as there's not too much damage done, then, it can always work out again."
June 2018: Baby on the Way
Several months later, Duff revealed that she and Koma were taking the next step in their romance by starting a family.
"Guess what guys! @matthewkoma and I made a little princess of our own and we couldn't be more excited!!!!!!" she wrote on Instagram.
Koma posted about the happy news too, writing, "We made a baby girl! She will be as beautiful and sweet as her mother... @hilaryduff another incredible chapter begins."
October 2018: Baby Banks Arrives
Banks Violet Bair made her arrival on Oct. 25, and her parents were all too happy to share the news on social media.
"We welcome a beautiful daughter, little sister, and best friend for life. Could not possibly be more grateful for our growing family and for the 🍊 who makes it all possible. Cloud ten," Koma wrote in his post, with Duff adding in hers, "This little bit has fully stolen our hearts! She joined our world at home on Thursday afternoon and is absolute magic."
December 2018: Duff Calls Koma an 'Amazing' Dad
In an interview with ET shortly thereafter, Duff gushed, "Matt's amazing. He's a really good dad and he's patient with her."
"It's insane and amazing at the same time and you just do it," she added of life with a newborn. "You just figure out a way to do it. But I don't know if we call it balance yet. It's mayhem."
January 2019: Happy in Love
At Prime Video's Golden Globes after-party in 2019, Duff marveled about having a rare night out with Koma.
"I don't leave the house anymore these days, I don't know what to say," Duff joked to ET. "We feel good, we're like, 'Oh my goodness, it's past our bedtime. We're out and we're raging, what is this?'"
"I mean, our baby is 10 weeks old and I obviously have a 6-year-old too, so we're, like, full parents right now," she continued. "I'm really happy, he's amazing, and I mean, honestly, we don't really want to leave the house that much these days. We just stare at our baby and we're like, 'Look what we made. We did this.' And he's such an amazing dad and so supportive and I just feel very happy."
May 2019: Koma Proposes
While Duff told ET in January 2019 that she and Koma were "not thinking about" getting engaged, the musician popped the question just five months later. In her December 2019 interview with Vogue, Duff recalled the night Koma proposed in a park near their New York City apartment.
"I'd had a very long day. I think my call time that morning was 4:00 a.m., and by the time I got home, our daughter was already asleep," she remembered. "We love to take walks together, and so he's like, 'Let's go on a walk, you had a day. Let's just get out and chat and catch up, there's this new park I want to take you to, and it's supposed to be gorgeous.'"
Duff agreed, and, while on their walk, Koma "all of a sudden said, "I've been working on something for you, and you're going to love it. I really want our kids to know our story and now we can keep adding to this book.'"
He presented her with a notebook full of illustrated sketches of them.
"It's our whole entire story mapped out for us to refer back to as we get older and for our kids to know, which is amazing," she said. "I get to the very last page, and there's a little piece that I have to lift up and my ring was inside. It was so sweet. It was really special and really simple, which is very much how we are and how we operate. Then it started raining, and it was perfect."
June 2019: Koma's First Father's Day
The following month, Duff praised her fiancé on his very first Father's Day.
"Babe. You are the most natural papa bear I've seen. You always put us first. You know exactly what to say. Affectionate beyond. Calm and strong. The kids don't even know how lucky they are that it's you.... but they will," she wrote on Instagram. "It's a gift I get to witness everyday. We love you more than words."
November 2019: A Special Tattoo
Koma cemented his role as a dad later that year when he got a tattoo in honor of his daughter and stepson.
"Luca (7) and Banks (1) holding hands just after her 1st birthday," he captioned a post of his new ink. "Thank you @curtmontgomerytattoos for engraving my kids."
December 2019: Tying the Knot
The pair closed out 2019 by tying the knot in the front yard of their Los Angeles home. According to Vogue, Duff walked down the aisle holding Banks, before exchanging vows in front of family and friends. The ceremony was officiated by Molly Bernard and Chris Mintz-Plasse.
After the ceremony, the party got into full swing with a troupe of Christmas carolers, before the newlyweds made their grand entrance. They continued the evening with a first dance and the cutting of the cake, before Duff changed into a gold sequined dress so she could dance all night long.
February 2020: A Musical Collab
The pair teamed up professionally for the first time when they, along with producer RAC, released a a cover of Third Eye Blind's "Never Let You Go."
September 2020: Another Tattoo
After a tattoo dedicated to his kids, Koma decided to honor his wife with his next ink, getting "Hilary" tattooed on his bottom.
"Good luck winning a fight with your wife when her name's tattooed on your butt cheek. #squats #gainz #laseraway," he captioned a photo of the tattoo.
Duff appreciated the sentiment, commenting, "Finest tiniest booty around."
October 2020: Pregnant Again
The couple announced that their second child together was on the way, with Duff writing on Instagram, "We are growing!!! Mostly me ..."
December 2020: Their First Wedding Anniversary
The pair made sure to mark their first wedding anniversary together with sweet Instagram posts.
"One year ago today looked a whole lot different. I can't imagine this last year without you to Clorox groceries and avoid the world with," Koma wrote of the COVID-19 pandemic. "When I asked you to be my wife, we had no idea our first year would look like this...They always say 'the first year is the hardest,' but in our case it was for completely different reasons and I'm so in awe of your bada**ery. How you're able to be the mom, individual, wife, spirit, and tie dye influencer you are, while making it look so easy is mind boggling and I don't know what I did right to deserve being on the receiving end of it."
"Thank you for being the most steady, supportive, empathetic, loving, and passionate. Thank you for the endless hours of indulging my obsession with deceased songwriters and pretending it interests you," he continued. "Thank you for making me drink water and eat breakfast. You make me so much better. You make our family what it is. You're the only thing that makes me cry through the Prozac. I love you."
Duff expressed a similar sentiment, sharing a photo of herself and Koma chowing down at their wedding.
"I love this moment so much. Matt and I were both too nervous to eat the day of our wedding .. this is directly after ....we slammed a plate of apps someone brought us before taking pictures and this pretty much sums us up," she wrote. "Snacking through life, dreaming about dinner at 7 am and wrangling kids. Oh, and dodging COVID the first year of marriage. Always with you babe."
"For you. Over and over I choose you and this," Duff continued. "Thank you for being a damn good man. Best I've ever met 12-21-19 Thanks for drinking two cups of water today... baby steps Old dogs can learn new tricks."
March 2021: Baby Mae Arrives
Duff's second daughter made her arrival in March 2021, a fact Duff announced by sharing a photo of Banks, which she captioned, "I'm a big sister ....... marinating on how I feel about that!"
Duff announced the baby's name shortly thereafter, writing, "Mae James Bair- We LOVE you beauty 3-24-21."
June 2021: A Birthday Tribute
Months into life with a third child, Duff posted a birthday tribute to her husband.
"Matthew, My dedications can't touch yours. Mostly I just want to say thank you.... For being my best friend. Giving 1000 percent to our kids," she wrote. "Whenever there's a tiny hint of something going on with me you drop everything to make me feel like it's valid and important and that feels really nice(I'm a poet, I know). But it's the humor for me. ..sometimes I don't even feel worthy of your sophisticated trolls, how lucky I am to be the chosen one."
"That face.... with the brains. Mmm mmm mmm I am forever surprised/ impressed/ and learning from you as we journey through all this life stuff together," Duff continued. "Thank you for being the coziest safest blanket for us to all rest our head. Nobody else I'd rather go through the trenches with bubba. HBD love you papa. Who's 34! Oh! And when you sit down and get really serious trying to do Banks' hair.... I really like that too. Slays right through me."
September 2021: Another Birthday Tribute
Koma returned the loving birthday sentiments shortly thereafter, noting, "It's wifey’s birthday in a few days and it only feels right to let her have the whole week to soak up the birthday love."
"Ba, I truly don’t know how you do it all - the backbone of our family and the Stevie of our Fleet. There aren't enough hours in the day, but you make more…there's never enough sleep, but you find the energy…I'm really the luckiest to get to do this life thing with you," he wrote. "The easy days and the absolute s**t storms we're constantly navigating…You're never phased and you give so much of yourself to us. And you still manage to be the coolest f**king individual outside of all that."
"We're all totally humbled by the wide strokes you're able to paint while we're still trying to tie our shoes. I hope this year allows you some of the best memories yet…we'll be here to cheer you on as you reach for every little dream cloud you come up with while we're talking in bed at night," Koma continued. "Happy birthday to the greatest wifey, mom, and snacking partner there is…but also thank god you were born because we'd be so f**ked. Love you. Also my full body hive is better so we can bone down tonight."
December 2022: Their Third Anniversary
When the couple's third anniversary rolled around in December 2022, both Duff and Koma took to Instagram to celebrate the milestone.
"Matthew. I love you so much. Happy 3 years! I don't know if you knew what you were getting into or that you weren't going to sleep or sit down for the next 5-10 years but I think for the most part you're pretty happy about it," Duff wrote. "Our life is so full and I'm over the top grateful for the guy that I got to do all this madness with."
In his post, Koma praised himself and Duff for how they "crushed three years."
"Anyone who says marriage is easy, hasn't been married or is raging slightly too high a microdose. But the work is the best part," he wrote. "The beauty truly is in going deeper with someone than you've ever been before and navigating an invisible map that only the two of you can trek. The hard stuff makes the great stuff even greater."
"Thank you ba for loving me. I know that isn't always easy. Thank you for listening to every version of Springsteen doing 'Santa Clause Is Coming To Town' this time of year and pretending you know what I mean when I scream 'Clarance.' Thank you for letting me keep 6 beverages on my nightstand. Thank you for traveling to see Dawes with me in foreign countries," Koma continued. "Thank you for raising our very cute and very unstable three kids. Thank you for being so hot and letting me do things to the body. It's so sick. When you leave me for Harry, I'll totally understand and I hope our kids get his fashion sense and that he loves going to sleep at 6pm as much as you. You’re not allowed to look at pictures of Matt Healy tho."
November 2023: Keeping Their Relationship Strong
In a 2023 interview with Women's Health, Duff revealed how she and Koma keep their relationship strong.
"I play tennis every Sunday. My husband and I have that together, which is really nice," she said. "About two years ago, I told him, 'Here's the deal: We need a sport so we still like each other when the kids leave the house.' So now, we ski, which is obviously seasonal. And we play tennis together, which is really fun."
December 2023: Baby on the Way... Again! And Another Anniversary!
The couple announced that they're expecting their third child together by sharing their holiday card.
"So much for silent nights!" the card read. "Happy Holidays! Buckle up Buttercups, we're adding one more to this crazy bunch!"
Amid the chaos, the couple kept their anniversary tributes short and sweet.
"Even though sometimes you think it goes kids, dogs, then you. That’s not true. You forgot about the chickens…." Duff wrote. "Happy 4 babe!"
"4 years married today and I’m just now finding out my wife thinks a bunch of U2 songs are Creed," Koma teased. "I love you so much @hilaryduff."
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